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Here is an event that you can participate in on Parents Day 2009. (July 26, 2009). A march for parents from Upper Senate Park on Sunday at 9AM to the National Christmas Tree with speaking at 12:00PM. See you all there!Fathers Justice Flyer 2009

Fairless Hills PA. July 5th, 2009: Pennsylvania Families and Childrens Equality are holding its first annual road bike trek to promote State House Bill 463 -- the Presumption of Joint Physical Custody in the State of Pennsylvania.

• Bill Koellner of Levittown, Pa and Bill Gibbons of Fairless Hills, Pa will ride their bikes 310 miles from Independence Hall / Peoples Park thru Harrisburg down to DC in only 4 days.


• Both riders will meet up with a group from Lansing Michigan on Thursday July 16^th on its last 80 mile trek down to DC – in conjunction with the annual “ParentStock” Festival held on the Lincoln Monument.
  

Monday Morning July 13^th at Peoples Park / Independence Hall – Phila. Pa. from 9-11am.

Low-cost divorce tips, legal self-help, and child custody resources have been added on a trial basis on the Get Your Justice Live book-store feature. Most of these are in the form of E-Books that are immediately available and accessible through various third-party authors and sites. I have included a disclaimer regarding the adversarial process and we certainly promote viable alternatives, but understand that there will always be those that need to prepare for the adversarial process when dealing with out-of-control ex-intimate partners. Below is a sample of the resources that are available from http://www.getyourjusticelive.com/book-store.

E-BOOKS FOR IMMEDIATE DOWNLOAD!

We do not encourage adversarial divorce by any means, but if you must engage in litigation and the complete divorce process it is important to be well-informed about the process, how it will affect your children, and what it can mean to you financially, whether male or female. Let us know if you find any of the electronic offerings helpful or if you have a resource that you think will assist other parents and we will include it here for others to order.

Men’s Divorce Tactics – Learn how to win your divorce without losing your shorts or your kids. “Most divorce lawyers do not care one iota about you.” The resource also states that “You’ll learn divorce basics, insider tips, and much much more.”

Divorce Secrets – Divorce Secrets, what every woman should know. This resource comes from DivorceDefense.Com, and has a significant focus on the financial aspects of divorce. Helpful information whether male or female as the strategies affect all litigants.

Divorce Strategies and Tactics (1 for Men / 1 for Women) – “Get the divorce settlement you want without spending a fortune.” There are two separate versions that you select at the time of purchase.

How to Win Child Custody -“The definitive strategy guide to winning custody by the Custody Coach.” With reviews from Dean Tong, Dr.Jayne Major, Attorney Kelley Rickert, Dr. Linda Nielsen, Dr. Amy Baker, and others. There are bonus offers through our link to the resource.

Co-Parenting Nightmare – Are you co-parenting with someone who is mentally ill or a substance abuser? Is their crazy behavior driving YOU insane? Let’s face it, when you are going through high-conflict situations, you might need this resource.

Family Law Secrets for Men – Why are Mothers winning custody in Family Court? Why are Fathers “allowed” to see their kids every other weekend and required to pay child support? The “Fathers Rights” movement is failing, and Men are losing custody every day. [Although we do not see this as a gender issue, this resource might assist you in making a determination for yourself.]

Chicken Soup for the Soul – Guide to Effective Parenting – From
The Desk of Parenting Expert, Shelly Lefkoe:If you knew that innocent mistakes could affect your children negatively for the rest of their lives…Would you change your behavior? If you could discover exactly what would help them to turn out just the way you want…Would you listen?

How Do I Tell The Kids About the Divorce (A Create-A-Storybook Guide) -When it comes to divorce or separation,there’s never a “best” time to tell your children. But there is a “best” way!

Custody Keeper (Child Custody and Divorce Calendar) – TomaWeb’s Custody Keeper® is a simple yet very useful custody scheduling software to help plan the time sharing of children between 2 or more guardians. Custody Keeper also lets you keep a daily diary of comments as well as track all of the expenses incured. The easy calendar interface is simple to use and will help you plan and manage the time sharing of the children so that it is clear for everyone involved. With Custody Keeper you can create a multiple year child access schedule in a matter of just a few minutes. [There is a 10-day free trial offer.]

Although we encourage parents to promote alternative dispute resolutions, mediation, and viable alternatives we recognize that there will still be parents that cannot settle their differences. As a result of the course that some parents take we provide child custody calendars, divorce tips, child custody tips, and various other resources to ensure parents are aware of the divorce and civil process.

We are also in the process of expanding resources to protect all of your legal rights and liberties and education/understanding is the starting point.

Over the past several weeks we have seen quite a bit of buzz going around about the recently released book STOP Fighting Over the Kids: Resolving Day-to-Day Custody Conflict in Divorce Situations. (Click to Order)

For starters the hit book Stop Fighting Over the Kids has received the Good Parenting Seal of Approval  on June 29, 2009. Evaluated by parents, the seal is awarded to books and media that address parenting issues that are clear, helpful and actionable. The Seal exists to resolve the issues of parents with limited time and money to sort through the thousands of books, millions of websites and other media when researching advice on raising children. Parental Wisdom has been award the Good Parenting certification mark by the U.S. Patent Office. For more information visit www.parentalwisdom.com. The complete press release is available through Associated Content here.

Just a few days ago we learned also that STOP Fighting Over the Kids: Resolving Day-to-Day Custody Conflict in Divorce Situations is now available in limited digitial format through Amazon's exclusive Kindle network. What this means is that the digital text/print version of the book is now available for instant delivery through any Kindle device and iPhone with appropriate software installed. The complete press release regarding this newest development is available online.

For those of you that are not aware, this july is the third annual National Child-Centered Divorce Month, celebrated by parents, the mental health community, and legal professionals, with a series of complimentary teleseminars open to all. Mike Mastracci, the legal mind and author behind STOP Fighting Over the Kids: Resolving Day-to-Day Custody Conflict in Divorce Situations will be presenting a free tele-seminar on July 14, 2009. More information about this event and Mike Mastracci's involvement is available online at Associated Content.

For more information about the book Stop Fighting Over the Kids, you can visit the official website at http://www.stopfightingoverthekids.com. You can order a copy right from the website and share it with your local library and legal professionals.

The West Michigan Tea Party on July 4, 2009 was a true celebration of what Independence Day is supposed to be about. People throughout the West Michigan corridor came to Riverside Park between 1pm and 3pm to state that we as Citizens have been Taxed Enough Already (TEA). Family Rights, Parental Rights, Tax Reformers, and other outspoken advocates from all walks of life came together and networked and listened to live entertainment, speakers, and each other.

One speech that I really enjoyed was Kristine C. from ICaucus.Org that spoke on the issues of Grassroots effectiveness and the fact that government has not been listening to our voices lately. A copy of this speech will be available in the coming days. For now, I leave you with a live version of God Bless America and come back for more information about this and other events that will help Americans stave off government intrusion in a variety of areas.

Congressman Pete Hoekstra's Office released a video update regarding the Parental Rights Amendment that was introduced into Congress earlier this year. The proposed amendment now has over 100 Congressional Supporters! There are both House and Senate versions of the proposed Constitutional Amendment. The House version is referred to as House Joint Resolution 42 and the Senate version is referred to as Senate Joint Resolution 16. Grassroots activists should be contacting both Representatives and Senators requesting their support on the respective proposed amendments.

You can spread the video update from our partner site at http://www.getyourjusticelivevideo.com/play.php?vid=172

There has been significant updates coming from Parental Rights (.Org) as well, which has been updated at the Children Need Both Parents site available at http://childrenneedbothparents.net/?p=90 under the article “Child Rights” Forces Mobilize.

Please pass this information along to other grassroots groups and family rights organizations and encourage them to make phone calls to both Representative and Senators.

For more information:

Parental Rights . Org
Parents Rights . Us
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Americans for Prosperity, Jack Hoogendyk & Scott Hagerstrom Join Get Your Justice Live

Americans for Prosperity Michigan Chapter Advisory Board Member Jack Hoogendyk and AFP-Michigan State Director Scott Hagerstrom joined the Get Your Justice Live program Wednesday June 17, 2009 and they brought a multitude of fresh issues to the national audience. Americans for Prosperity (AFP) and Americans for Prosperity Foundation (AFP Foundation) are committed to educating citizens about economic policy
and mobilizing those citizens as advocates in the public policy process.

To listen to the 1 hour interview, check out Get Your Justice Live Radio and the episode over here.

In April 2009, we interviewed on Get Your Justice Live, author Mike Jeffries on the issue of Parental Alienation and his new book titled A Family's Heartbreak. (Amazon).

Mike Jeffries appears again on WomensDivorce.Com with a new article, Coping as an alienated parent. In the article he speaks of moving on:

Move on emotionally. Don't concentrate on the relationship you once had with the alienated child. Get past the anger. Don't beat yourself up. Focus on the positive. Understand how you got here. Get some exercise. Do volunteer work. Write in a journal. And when all else fails, recite the serenity prayer:

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can not accept
and the wisdom to know the difference.

Good advice from someone that has been through parental alienation and documented the entire process on both sides of spectrum through a parents' perception and a clinical perception. If you haven't had a chance to catch up with the full article, visit WomansDivorce.Com here. It is important to understand the dynamics associated with children of divorce when there is ongoing conflict between parents. The adversarial process harms children in our family courts.

There are two resources that every divorcing parent should be required to read. The first resource of course is A Familys Heartbreak (Mike Jeffries and Dr. Joel Davies) and then the second resource is Stop Fighting Over the Kids (Attorney Mike Mastracci). These two books show you the aftermath of poor decision-making that feuding parents can make before, during, and after a divorce or child custody dispute.

My thanks to WomensDivorce.Com and to the professionals that are aware that reforms are necessary to protect children and parents from the harms of the adversarial family court process.

More resources on Parental Alienation:

• A Familys Heartbreak Site:http://www.afamilysheartbreak.com


• Parental Alienation Hurts:http://www.parentalalienationhurts.com


• Dr. Amy Baker: http://www.amyjlbaker.com

Happy 100th Fathers Day in America. Tell a father that you appreciate them being present in the lives of their children. Dr. Jeffrey Johnson Joins Get Your Justice Live, “100th Anniversary Year of Father’s Day”

Dr. Jeffrey Johnson, representing  the National Partnership for Community Leadership, joined us live on Get Your Justice Live to discuss the 100th Anniversary Year of Father’s Day, the National Fatherhood Conference for Responsible Fathers, and the National Fathers Day Rally on the Lincoln Memorial. Take a listen at the shortened 31 minute version so that you can get all the information about Dr. Jeffrey Johnson’s perspective on fatherhood, absenteeism, the events, and government policy affecting our families and children.

You can listen through the player below, of visit the entire piece at Get Your Justice Live.