I had always shared with people that the best day in life since the age of 18 was July 2nd for me. The thing is, many people have a special date because they think it is magic or just their lucky day. The second of July is a day of personal growth every year and a day of decision-making and goal-setting for me. The main point is... luck, magic, etc. has nothing to do with the day... It's a day that I personally choose to be special and enjoy doing so.
Over the past many years, life has been slow and many changes have taken hold. Not what I originally planned, but life is getting more enjoyable and even more changes are taking hold because I am making them. I have gone back to my roots and discovered that so many people are having a hard time coping with their circumstances, whether it is divorce, child-custody, or just being a victim about everything happening in their life. I might have forgotten for a minute that my strongest skill is problem-solving no matter what the problem is. Too many people get caught up in their past that prevents them from reaching success in their future. I am using my skills to build some pretty amazing things lately.
So my personal blog is changing soon and reflecting some of the very enjoyable things that I am doing mixed with an occasional opinion piece with a positive twist. So as we go into this Independence Day weekend, enjoy a parade in your hometown, enjoy the holiday reaching out to friends, and most of all enjoy who you are becoming. Independence Day can be taken a few different ways, in the political sense or the personal choice sense. We are all masters of our future so my independence comes with defining the future.
So every year about this time I have a small black book that was given to me as a gift that I take a peek into. Hand-written quotes, flip through some of the pages and see what sticks with me:
"Missing someone gets easier everyday because even though you are one day further from the last time you saw them, you are one day closer to the next time you will" -Unknown.
"In order for you to insult me, I must first value your opinion." -Unknown.
"Grow old along with me. The best is yet to be." -Rabbi Benezra
It is a great year so far and getting better. I dedicate my life to succeeding for my children, my family, and my community. That is how we begin to maintain freedom if we are to "lead by example" in our communities. Insert any series of events in your past and you can make it through the dim times by taking the best things from your past as tools for a brighter positive future. You don't have to take the negative with you. Now, I'm going to go finish my cup of coffee on the deck this morning and finish watching the sun come up and watch the blog for some of the fun that I am seriously about to have.
Well son, you just made it to eleven years old today, I think of you each and every day. Happy Eleventh Birthday today Lary! You are in my heart and always on my mind. Big hugs and kisses to you today. I miss you.
The online publication and the print book help bring to light a better way to divorce, by demonstrating that divorce without dishonor is possible by listening, collaborating, and exiting a failing relationship with dignity and respect on behalf of children and communities. "Much of what is discussed in Divorce Without Dishonor and Stop Fighting Over the Kids is a consumer awareness piece that demonstrates there are viable alternatives to the adversarial and expensive divorce process," states Lary Holland.
In 2009, Divorce Without Dishonor was referenced on the online and print version of the immensely popular "Divorce for Dummies" book:
Divorce Without Dishonor
http://www.divorcewithoutdishonor.com
You can see from the quality of the postings here that the author, a divorce attorney who went through his own painful divorce, puts a lot of thought and effort into his blog. He not only provides compassionate, practical advice about the major aspects of divorce but writes about such topics as how to overcome the guilt you feel because of your divorce and how to help your child cope with the emotions he or she may feel because of your divorce, tips for moving out of your family's home when you separate, and why some divorced fathers become ghost dads after their divorce --- fathers who pay the child support, but drift out of their children's day to day lives. The blog also highlights interesting divorce-related Web sites to check out, studies to learn from and divorce books to read, and even features quotes that will make you laugh or inspire you as you go through your divorce. (Divorce for Dummies. NJ: Wiley Publishing, 2009. 334-335. Print.)
In essence, inclusion of Divorce Without Dishonor in the Divorce for Dummies print book delivers the information and resources to a larger audience and continues to influence parents and professionals on the issues of positive parenting, collaborative law strategies, and child-centered
divorce practices through written articles, links, and resources.
Last night we released the first in a series of child-centered awareness programs that focus on divorce and trauma that children may experience inside and outside a divorce situation. Here is a copy of the first announcement that went to mediators, psychologists, and a select number of attorneys throughout the United States:
We found ourselves in a position to offer several professionals a free review copy of the book STOP Fighting Over the Kids: Resolving Day-to-Day Custody Conflict in Divorce Situations. The book sells for $29.99 through Amazon.Com. Within moments of many professionals walking into their office and checking their email our phones began to ring with people interested in using it as a resource in their own practices for parents, clients, and other colleagues.
Including the resource above we spread the awareness of the Coloring Away Pain series and have been receiving the feed back for them as well.
The resource books will help parents work with their children through a variety of different trauma types in the form of coloring books to help a child express themselves on complex issues. Tornadoes, Earthquakes,Divorce, Parental Alienation, Floods, Fires, and more.
We are also sharing resource sheets from other counselors, psychologists, and professionals amongst their peers, if you have a resource sheet please email me at laryholland@sbcglobal.net so I can share them with others.
Happy Birthday to my youngest, Esilanna who turned 9 years old today. I will always be here in prayer, spirit, and with open arms. Dad is proud of you and thinking of you always. You will always be able to find me, and know that I love you, and when you close your eyes, just like your brother, you will find me, when you call me I will be there. I miss you, I love you, and I hope that you have the best birthday that a smart lil girl can have. Happy 9th Birthday Daughter.
Get Your Justice Live, the number one talk show about reforming our judiciary and making sure our Government is more accountable, has recently added new features, programming, and more. Here is a partial list of some of our updates:
This afternoon at 3:00PM (EDT), Representative Pete Hoekstra (MI) and Senator Jim DeMint (SC) held a joint press conference at Upper Senate Park, at the exact location of last years, DC FAMILY PRESERVATION FESTIVAL, next to the Russell Office Building in Washington, D.C., to announce the introduction of the Parental Rights Amendment in both houses of Congress. If you see clips of news on this, please send them to me as soon as possible at laryholland@sbcglobal.net. Congressman Hoekstra's office will also be releasing video, audio, and pictures through their new site listed below.
It is official, we have a Joint Resolution Number of 42. When speaking to Senators and Representatives you may now refer to the Parental Rights Amendment as House Joint Res. 42 or HJR-42.
We are being joined by an attorney from the Home School Defense Association to discuss the need for the upcoming Federal Parental Rights Amendment. We are also discussing the next course of action to ensure our parental rights are protected and respected by all on GET YOUR JUSTICE LIVE TONIGHT AT 8PM EST.
Home School Legal Defense Association is a nonprofit advocacy organization established to defend and advance the constitutional right of parents to direct the education of their children and to protect family freedoms. Through annual memberships, HSLDA is tens of thousands of families united in service together, providing a strong voice when and where needed.
This is just one of the major organizations that are coming forward to ensure the parental rights amendment gets passed.
We are spearheading one of three campaigns to raise awareness of parental rights on a nationwide scale and are looking for your help. Join us live tonight (February 25, 2009) for the first of several in a series of political discussions and activist awareness campaigns regarding parental rights.
Tune in live on Get Your Justice Live tonight at 8PM EST. Also, please take a moment and visit Children Need Both Parents for more information on the Federal Parental Rights Amendment and its' supporters. We need your help.
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Please note that this language is being reintroduced into the 111th (2009-2010) session of the United States Congress. We have a
ton of work to do and our other legislative activities build upon this single issue. After all, parental rights should be respected and
protected by all.
On June 26, 2008, US Congressman Pete Hoekstra introduced H.J.Res.97, the Parental Rights Constitutional Amendment, which would protect parents’ rights to raise their children from unnecessary government intrusion. The amendment would allow for government intervention in instances of child abuse or neglect and would protect parental rights from the overreach of international law.
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